Sometimes, it’s all about how you say it.
When someone asks you a “stupid” question, do you immediately respond with a scowl? When you hear someone say something you don’t agree with, do you immediately flare up? Do you find yourself always picking a fight with your boyfriend about every little thing (uh-oh… who’s guilty?)
Hebrews 12:14 says “Make every effort to live in peace with everyone…” and what better way to ruin the peace than to start a fight, right? Instead, let’s take the advice of James 1:19 which says “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”
Choose your words carefully. Words have the power to change a situation 180 degrees! Instead of saying “Why are you late?! You’re always late when you pick me up!!! I hate you!!!!”, why don’t you try “Hey, did something come up a while ago? Did you get stuck in traffic? Maybe next time we can try to leave a bit earlier so that we’re not late for the dinner.” :) Or something like that. Hehe!
So before you say anything, listen and think first! As one of my favorite quotes go: “I don’t think…” then you shouldn’t talk, said the Hatter.” (from Lewis Caroll’s Alice in Wonderland)